The Ancient Wisdom for Positive Relationships

How have you been energising your most important relationships, e.g. with your loved ones? The Hawaiians have a powerful ancient practice called ho’oponopono, which roughly translates to “to make things right.” It consists of four simple phrases that can transform your relationships: I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.

• “I’m sorry” is the first step in acknowledging your vulnerabilities, opening the door for authentic communication.

• “Please forgive me” isn’t about whether the other person forgives you but about accepting your humanity and freeing yourself to move forward unburdened by the past.

• “Thank you” expresses gratitude, appreciating the other person for who they are and what they’ve done.

• “I love you” is an affirmation of love—not just romantic love, but a deep appreciation for the other person’s soul and essence.

Repeating this mantra to your loved ones whenever the opportunity arises can work wonders. It’s a simple yet profound way to infuse your relationships with positivity and healing.

Ultimately, all relationships come down to two questions: "Do I like to be with you?" and "Do I want to be like you?" If the people who matter to you can answer “yes” to at least one of these questions, you’ve succeeded in creating a meaningful and energizing connection.

This blog is adapted from the book How Are You Doing Today?